Sly's FOAD Thursday: To All The Asshole Ex-Boyfriends Who Abused Me: Fuck Off and Die

This is my response to a post on Feminist Current. One of the topics was misogynistic behavior towards pregnant employees at Google. 

The tech industry is guilty of a lot of misogyny. I worked in tech for a little over a year back in 1997. I tried to be "one of the guys" because I had very low self-esteem and wanted to fit in. I also had as yet undiagnosed type 2 bipolar disorder and was drawn to chaos, possibly because I really had never known anything else. I was in my early 30s, but I was very naive.

 I fell in with a very interesting crowd. They all watched a lot of porn. The only other female in our little group was in an open marriage. She came from a very messed-up background. Her mother prostituted herself sometimes and had sex in front of her young daughter.

I made two big mistakes. The first was going to a Halloween party at this lady's house, but the bigger one was bringing along my ex-boyfriend whom I'd just broken up with because I wanted to be "open-minded" and show that we could "still be friends." He had been verbally abusive to me, but I felt guilty about breaking up with him.

Sometime during the party, one of my co-workers kissed me. The kiss was consensual, although I wouldn't have done it if I hadn't been completely smashed. My ex-boyfriend started making a scene, and I made two more big mistakes.

I didn't want my ex-boyfriend to get in a fight with my co-worker, so I drove drunk back to my apartment. I thought my ex-boyfriend had left. I crawled into bed with my clothes on. I woke up with my clothes off and him on top of me. I yelled (or slurred) at him to stop. When he was done, he said: "well, now we're back together again."

I had horrific panic attacks one after another for a year afterward. The doctors tried to medicate me, but I tend to have paradoxical responses to medications and most of them only made the panic attacks worse. Xanax made me suicidal. My family told me "well, you got over this sort of thing before, you can do it again." (I had been sexually assaulted when I was 18 by a guy I met while waiting in line for concert tickets. That one told me he hoped I would get pregnant so we'd have to stay together.)

I never went to the police. I knew they'd only say I deserved it because I was drunk and I let him into my apartment.

I was in an extremely vulnerable state of mind, and that's when another pervert predator struck. I've mentioned that one before. He is the one who would force me to watch bestiality videos and to kiss his feet under the threat that he would withdraw his "love" from me. He flaunted another girlfriend in front of me. I ended up with scars on my arms that will be there for the rest of my life because I couldn't imagine life without this creep and I cut my wrists.

Not that other industries don't have their creeps and abusers, but the tech industry is rife with them. The guy who raped me was in school to get a degree in programming as well.

I'm not saying every man in the tech industry is guilty of misogyny. I am saying there is a lot of misogyny in the tech industry.

~Sly Has Spoken~

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I didn't want to

I didn't want to

I didn't want to!

I know this song could never be made today, and I know that some of the lyrics are not politically correct, but their heart was in the right place and the song made me laugh when I really needed to. R.I.P. Brad Nowell and Lou Dog. Hope you're having fun on the other side, writing more bawdy songs with heart.

Dudebros Be Like + How Stupid Are Wingnuts: Heavy Makeup = True Beauty

So let's deconstruct how stupid this is. You cherry-pick pictures of heavily made-up young women and place them side by side with pictures of ordinary women who don't have the makeup put on with a trowel. So, according to wing-nut "logic," wearing a crap-ton of makeup must be "true beauty."

Also, Michael Moore (bottom right corner) is not a woman.

~Sly Has Spoken~

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Sly Says: Just Stuff A Rag In Your Bloomers, Ladies

http://www.denverpost.com/2017/02/13/colorado-tampon-tax/

You can't make this shit up.
Some wit commented thusy on this article:
"Both tampons and pads are a little over 100 years old. Before then, for thousands of years, women found other ways to deal with the issue. They could use those old methods today. So, tampons and pads are a choice."

To which I responded:
Great plan. Women could just stuff a towel in their bloomers while menstruating. Modern toilet paper is also a fairly recent invention. We could go back to using pages torn from a catalog to wipe after doing our business in the outhouse. Or we could do as the Romans did and use a sponge on a stick in a public lavatory where one did one's business right next to one's neighbor. Said sponge would then be rinsed off for the next person to use. Or we could roll things even further back and squat in a field to do our duty, and then wipe with leaves.
Sound inconvenient and unsanitary? Well, so is walking around with a literal rag that has no adhesive stuffed in your underwear. You can't get much of anything done for fear that the damn thing may slip out of place. This method would be particularly problematic for a person who has very heavy periods.
My guess would be that you are a person who doesn't have to deal with the issue of menstruation. You would also seem to be a person who doesn't give much thought to how things affect other people. Try walking around with a wet rag stuffed in your underpants for a day and tell us all how convenient it is to use the "old methods" for dealing with menstruation.

~Sly Has Spoken~

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Christofacist Douchelords: Kirk Cameron

Sadly, cute little Cole Seever grew up to be a Christofacist Douchelord

Kirk Cameron says that a woman's purpose is to serve her husband, regardless of how she is treated by said husband.

http://churchandstate.org.uk/2016/09/conservative-christian-says-wives-should-submit-to-husbands-even-if-treated-like-sht/

I have something to say about that.

Dear Kirk Cameron,

Oddly enough, your life's purpose is to kiss my fat old feminist ass. Here's a big FUCK YOU in gratitude for your "inspiring" misogynist bullshit.

Love,

Sly Fawkes

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Fat, Old, Ugly, But at Least Not a Sexist Piece of Crap

Kiss my fat ass

Mary says: Feeling really upset just now after seeing that two senators have made mean remarks about the women who were marching. I did march in DC and to see what's in the hearts of our government and the institutionalization of sexism, makes me sick.

Sly says: Fuck them. So what if they find us ugly? So what if they call us fat? I am fat. I'm also old. I'm also pretty sure most people don't find me to be in even the same zip code as pretty. Doesn't matter. My worth isn't tied to how desirable some cretin finds me. Took me a long time to get to this place, but now that I'm here I want to be in the face of so called men like this even more because it pisses them off, and that makes me happy.

~Sly Has Spoken~

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