Peter Pan Syndrome + Trauma = Gender Medicine for Females

A response to the following post from Eliza Mondegreen's Substack post about E. Page's interview in Esquire Magazine.

 https://elizamondegreen.substack.com/p/i-could-not-picture-myself-as-a-woman

"I could not picture myself as a woman aging."

The title suggests a degree of Peter Pan syndrome as well as untreated trauma and psychological issues. E. Page discusses panic attacks and eating disorders. Somehow, the cure for these issues is a mastectomy and cross-sex hormones to emulate the appearance of a male. E. Page does not look so much like an adult male as an androgynous adolescent. 

Androgynous adolescent is the goal appearance of many females with restrictive eating disorders (anorexia.) 

I was 32 years old when I was sexually assaulted in 1997. At that time, the En Vogue treatment was to prescribe drugs (SSRIs and benzodiazepines.) Not one doctor listened to me when I told them that I had been sexually assaulted. Their goal was to shut me up.

I experienced panic attacks approximately every 20 minutes from the time I woke up to the time I went to sleep. Did I consider suicide? Hell yeah I did. It wasn't only the doctors that didn't listen to me either. My own family members told me that I had "gotten over it" when I was sexually assaulted fourteen years previously and I'd get over it again. I never mentioned it again.

I do not respond well to psych meds. SSRIs make me manic and psychotic, two things that I am usually not. I have paradoxical reactions to benzos. Valium is the only one that doesn't trigger rebound panic attacks, and it makes me thick as a brick. These drugs are not a solution to trauma.

After a year of struggling with no help whatsoever, one day the panic attacks stopped. I gave thanks to whatever powers there may be. I have no intention of arguing whether or not such powers exist. That really isn't the point. 

I wonder if my sexual assault happened now if I wouldn't have been pushed in the direction of transition even though I never expressed a belief that I was male or a desire to be male. I had a deep-seated hatred of my body that was there before the assault and was exacerbated after the assault. I was fully aware that what happened to me happened because I was female. Not because I "Identify as" female, but because I am objectively, biologically female. 

Never mind that I have never wanted to be male (other than when I was menstruating, a hell that I endured once a month for 40 years, and even then my proclamation that I wished I could turn into Guy rather than Sly was mostly a joke.) I genuinely wonder if the Gender Idealogues wouldn't have used the behaviors and distress of a trauma sufferer to push me down the path to transition and I wonder just how many trans-identified females are also suffering from PTSD.

~Sly Has Spoken~

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Dumb Identities: Demi

 

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Why do we only see demi-girls and demi-boys and never demi-women or demi-men…

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Because the gender trend is Peter Pan Syndrome in action.

Ain't that the damn truth? 

"Demi" is such an unnecessary concept. I never thought my dislike of casual sex and hookup culture was a kind of sexual orientation, for fuck's sake. Spoilers: it isn't. 

Demi is one of those dumb identities proposed by Kweer theorists. Not a hypersexual hoochie mama or himbo always on the prowl for your next hook-up? You're not simply selective or anything so boring as that. You're Kweer!

I'm not "kweer." I'm not demi-anything. I'm a heterosexual female who dislikes hookup culture. If I'm going to be sexually involved with someone, it needs to be someone that I have a strong bond of trust with. At this point in my life, that's nobody on the planet.

Not being interested in sex these days doesn't make me Kweer either. 

I'm still simply Super straight, and I'm good with that. 

It's fine to be Super-Gay or Super-Bi too. 

If you want to call yourself "demi" something, you do you. Whatever gets you through your life. I find terms like "demi" meaningless and unnecessary.

~Sly Has Spoken~

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Only One Kind of People Become Pregnant

 

Nary a one of these people with long hair and heavy makeup will ever become pregnant. I wonder why.

The following is a comment I left on a post about the current danger to reproductive freedom in the United States. The spam filter ate my comment, but I always copy my comments because of aggressive spam filters. I am overall in agreement with the post. It was the title that made me balk. 

http://mckennadeanromance.com/first-they-came-for-the-pregnant-people

I agree with your thoughts in the post but had my doubts when I saw the title. There is only one kind of "people" that becomes pregnant: females. No male will ever be pregnant. 

I cringe at so-called "inclusive" language in women's healthcare that erases the very people said healthcare is supposed to be there for. A tiny minority of trans-identifying females (transmen) become pregnant. "Inclusive" language would add transmen rather than erasing women. As for people identifying as nonbinary, they are still either male or female. There is no third sex.

This rant isn't directed at you, only at the wording in the post title. As I said previously, I agree with the content of the post. It was well-written, detailed, thoughtful, and thought-provoking. I'm simply frustrated at the way identity politics erases women, who face prejudice because of our sex class, not our gender identity. 

Women. The word you're looking for is women.

Dumping tRump is also a great idea. Let's keep him dumped.

While we're at it, here are some more people with long hair (no makeup, though) who could never get pregnant, even if they used she/her pronouns.

~Sly, Wishing the Gender Woo-Woo Would Fizzle Out Already~

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The Forced Teaming of the Identity Alphabet Soup

"Hi, I'm Sligh, your snurse. My preferred pronouns are Sley/Slem."

This is a response to a post by Uchenna Umeh, MD.

https://www.kevinmd.com/2022/05/lgbtq-basics-10-things-your-queer-patient-wishes-you-knew.html

Many homosexuals feel that the term "queer" is a homophobic slur. I am not alone in wondering what "queer" even means these days. I know what gay, lesbian, and bisexual mean. Unless I was providing mental health treatment to someone based on discomfort with or bullying over their sexual orientation, I see no reason why I would need to know said sexual orientation. When I worked as a nurse before becoming disabled, I treated all of my patients, their family members, and my co-workers with respect and dignity. I never once demanded to know their sexual orientation before doing so.

The forced teaming of T and all the other letters with LGB causes more problems than it solves. T refers to gender identity. Gender identity is not a sexual orientation. Q is tied in with queer theory which many people of all sexual orientations reject. The Pronoun Brigade has been instrumental in taking the focus away from women in branches of healthcare that exist solely for the treatment of female health issues including pregnancy and menstruation. No male will ever menstruate or become pregnant. Referring to pregnant women as "pregnant people," to mothers as "birthing parents" and to women who menstruate as "menstruators" is dehumanizing language purported to be "inclusive" while erasing women. 

I would treat a transsexual patient with the same respect that I treated any other patient. However, I draw the line at corrosive ideology such as "saying only women have a cervix is transphobic" and calling women "cervix-havers or "uterus-havers." No male will ever have a cervix. Transwomen are biologically male. No female will ever have a prostate. Transmen are biologically female. This does not mean they are deserving of scorn or disrespect. It means that biological reality needs to be acknowledged in medicine in order to provide the best care for each patient.

The following was not included in my comment.

The post author states that:

"The best way to begin any conversation is, “Hello, my name is Dr. Lulu, and my pronouns are she/her. May I ask what yours are?” This sends a subtle message to your patient that you are a safe space.

If any physician said that to me, my response would be "I refuse to participate in a homophobic and misogynistic Orwellian ideology. If I desired metaphysical Woo Woo with my medical care, I would have consulted a witch doctor."

The Pronoun Brigade's safe spaces feel entirely unsafe for a gender-critical Truly Exceptional Real Female who is Tired of Explaining Reality to Fuckwits.

~Sligh Has Spoughken~

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Of AC/DC, Twisted Sister, and Glossy Penthouse "Lesbian" Pictorials

Twisted Sister back in the day

 This is my response to a blog post by Stuart Parker.

https://www.feministcurrent.com/2022/05/19/the-new-transwomanhood-takes-genx-tech-bro-masculinity-and-the-dead-hooker-oath-to-hypermasculine-heightss/

I'm a little confused by the inclusion of AC/DC under the "hair metal" label. They never wore makeup, and other than the lead guitarist, who wore a schoolboy uniform, the other band members all wore t-shirts and jeans. They had long hair, but it wasn't teased or overly styled. AC/DC is a straightforward heavy blues-rock band who always shied away from being labeled as glam or metal.

Twisted Sister is, absolutely, hair metal and they did wear garish makeup. However, they never intended for anyone to view them as being female. Part of the gag was that they were obviously male. 

From a female perspective, the glossy Penthouse images were utterly destructive to a decidedly ordinary-looking teenage girl. As a teenager, my goal as soon as I turned 18 was to get breast implants. Fortunately, I came to my senses, realizing that even my modest endowment had a tendency to get in my way. It would have been a lot worse if some unscrupulous plastic surgeon had granted my wish and implanted immobile, asteroid-sized silicone globules in my chest.

~Sly Has Spoken~

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Right-Wing Men Wanting to "Know Where the Feminists Are"

 

The following is a response to Meghan Murphy's post. 

https://www.feministcurrent.com/2022/05/24/where-are-all-the-feminists-were-right-here-being-erased-by-you/

Where am I? Disabled, live in a remote rural area. Suspended from Twitter last week for saying that TIFs are not notorious for trying to push their way into men's safe spaces while TIMs are constantly pushing their way into women's safe spaces.  

I don't know that I want to go back to Twitter even if the suspension is lifted.

I don't hate transsexuals. I never did. I hate this bullshit movement that's really nothing but the same old misogyny covered in glitter and reframed as progressive. 

I'm on Spinster but have spent a shocking amount of time and energy blocking stupid incels who have hijacked the platform to try and own women with the same tired old MRA "talking" points: Stacy, Chad, the "cock carousel," and no fat chicks hurr hurr hurr. Twitter is a bastion of mostly left-wing woman-hating wokesters while Spinster is polluted by creepy-ass right-wing incels. 

I try to keep fighting because it's so important that what rights women have managed to win not be taken from us, but I feel utterly alone most of the time. Social media has proven bad for my mental health and I've taken a step back from it. It's all very discouraging.

I'm nearly 60 years old and the work that women have done to be recognized as equals in society are being eroded by the New Misogyny at an alarming rate. In some ways, things are worse for women than ever. Attacking us is now framed as "progressive," whereas any attempts on our parts to decry our silencing and erasure are framed as "hate speech" resulting in social ostracization, loss of livelihood, and even threats to our safety.

~Sly Has Spoken~

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Sly's Feminist Book Club: Transgender Body Politics

 https://amzn.to/3wvJlLi

The following is a duplicate of my review on Scribd.

With the lack of rational thought surrounding the current affirmation model for young people with gender dysphoria, books like this one are critically important. The push to accept transgender identities is not merely a matter of social justice or mental health. The movement also involves a push to normalize queer theory. Rather than being a solution for problems like rigid sex stereotypes and homophobia, the current trans rights movement compounds these issues. This book is essential reading for anyone who wants to understand what's really going on.

Rating: Five stars